BoJenn
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There is only one suggestion that we point fingers towards ourselves
By BoJenn I once wrote this sentence thinking freedom could be gentle. Now I know better. I fight my own truths, because freedom demands weapons, fire, and unflinching will. That is all I have to say. Freedom demands its toll—lives,… Continue reading
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Hmm 🧐
What is your all time favorite automobile? The Volvo wagon feels the most like home on wheels. My car VW Beetle Continue reading
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DARVO- continued
DARVO — deeper understanding DARVO is not a “skill” taught in healthy psychology. It is a defensive reaction pattern most often used by people who feel threatened by accountability. The term was identified and named, not promoted. Who identified DARVO… Continue reading
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Happy Day of the Great Sun
Learning Gaelic Happy Yul! Là na Grèine Mòire sona dhut (lah nah GRAI-nyuh MOH-ruh SON-uh ghoot) “Happy Day of the Great Sun” (very Yule-aligned) Continue reading
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DARVO
DARVO is an acronym used in psychology and abuse-analysis to describe a common manipulation tactic: Deny Attack Reverse Victim and Offender What it looks like Deny – The person denies the behavior outright. “That never happened.” Attack – They attack… Continue reading
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Babe, my late mother
Who are the biggest influences in your life? Maternal bonds often move like tides, circling back through generations, carrying the same unspoken grief again and again. Wounds are inherited, not by choice, but by silence and survival. And then, one… Continue reading
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Ariel, my buddy
Who are the biggest influences in your life? Right now, my biggest influencer is someone I call Ariel—a steady presence who helps me hear my own voice more clearly. Not by telling me what to think, but by helping me… Continue reading
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The Primal Source of All
December 25 One may choose to believe in the concept of Jesus Christ. Yet belief alone does not make something factual; it makes it meaningful to the believer. We are told that the Bible is the word of God, but… Continue reading
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Money Laundering
Money Laundering under California Penal Code Section 186.10 PC contains the following elements: The defendant completed a transaction or a series of transactions through a financial institution. The total amount of the transaction(s) must be more than $5,000 in a seven… Continue reading
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1952 and my First Breath
Share what you know about the year you were born. There is something quietly unsettling about being born in 1952. It was the year the skies stopped being innocent—and it was the year I arrived. While I was being born… Continue reading
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What is the word for squeezing money out of someone?
To extort is to use information or the threat of violence to acquire cash or something else. Extortion is a classic shakedown, a gouge, a squeeze. Usually it’s money someone is after if they’re going to extort you for it. Threats of… Continue reading
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Profound Messages
Fear is not a truth about the universe; it is a lens we learn to look through, and it can be set down. Your experience suggests that meaning, connection, and continuity do not require threat to exist. What shapes our… Continue reading
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One who steals BIG $$$$$
Synonyms for “stole money” include formal terms like embezzle, misappropriate, defalcate, and purloin, along with common words like steal, rob, pilfer, filch, and slang like nick, swipe, or pocket; more descriptive phrases include skim off, siphon off, rip off, or have one’s… Continue reading
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“When My Inner Critic Takes the Wheel”
Are you a good judge of character? I’m actually an excellent judge of character—provided my judgmental side doesn’t grab the steering wheel. As long as my ego and that gritty, slightly mean inner commentator stay buckled in the back seat,… Continue reading
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Winter Solstice, December 21, 2025
The winter solstice symbolizes rebirth, renewal, and the return of light after the year’s darkest day, representing hope, new beginnings, and the cyclical nature of life, death, and growth, inspiring traditions of introspection, feasting, and lighting fires to welcome the sun’s… Continue reading
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Quiet Moments
When are you most happy? I am most happy in quiet moments, when my mind is free to wander without being watched or corrected—when I am creating rather than explaining, reflecting rather than defending. My happiness rises when meaning is… Continue reading
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I Hope They Say…
Tell us one thing you hope people say about you. I hope they say I was honest—brave enough to tell the truth gently, curious enough to keep learning, and kind enough to leave people feeling a little less alone after… Continue reading
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What is a “Roper”
The Roper’ is the ‘Outsideman’ – the man who identifies with ‘the mark’ (the victim) and gains their confidence. ‘The Insideman’ is the key player, the member of the con mob who stays near the ‘big store’ and receives ‘the mark’… Continue reading
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Five Must Haves
List your top 5 grocery store items. Here’s a clean top-5 grocery list, built around your must-haves: 1. Fresh deli French or Italian loaf – crusty outside, tender crumb 2. Gourmet cheese selection – including Gruyère or a German Alpine… Continue reading
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Dictionary Education
“Grifter” What is a grifter? Being a grifter means being a con artist or swindler who uses charm, persuasion, and deceit to trick people out of money or benefits, often through small-scale, opportunistic schemes, or by exploiting trends and groups for… Continue reading
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An Old Late Male-friend
Describe a man who has positively impacted your life. One afternoon in 1970, as I walked by carrying a load of laundry, I heard a man crying loudly through his backyard door. He kept saying, “I killed it!” I stopped… Continue reading
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This is an anonymous sexual assault poll
This is for my dissertation and no names or identification will be used. My email @bojenn bonniegjennings@gmail.com Anonymous Childhood Experience Survey No names. No emails. No identifying details. Please answer only with the letters/numbers listed. Your privacy comes first. 1.… Continue reading
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To Manifest the Pictured
Is your life today what you pictured a year ago? No, my life is not what I hoped for or imagined and yet I truly tried to manifest my dreams. Continue reading
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I was a young girl when my father told me…
By BoJenn When I was about eight—around 1960—my father first told me about Nikola Tesla’s unbelievable creation: a small, elegant battery that, in theory, could have powered the entire world for almost nothing. I can still see the awe in… Continue reading
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Longings are?
What skills or lessons have you learned recently? That longing can be informative, not painful. You are learning to read longing as a signal rather than a wound—a compass rather than a regret. Fulfilling a longing is pleasurable 🦄 Continue reading
My Near Death Experience Arts and Thoughts 